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02 June 2014 @ 06:53 pm
In loving memory of Tamatha Renee Williams  
Never did I imagine that I would ever have to write this, but my dear friend, Tammy aka Evil T/otterevil, passed away suddenly and unexpectedly April 22. I am heartsick at her loss and can't imagine my world without her. I don't know if I can type this out without falling apart again.

She had been in hospital due to a broken bone, and she couldn't get on living by herself so had been checked into hospital. I was in contact with her up to April 18th, when she told me she was being transferred to a rehabilitation facility the next Monday. I tried contacting her several times after and received no response. I was concerned, but didn't want to leap to conclusions, and I knew she'd been having financial difficulties, so thought maybe her cell had been shut off. I contacted Arduinna hoping she had heard from Tammy. On Friday, Arduinna emailed me with the horrible news: she'd found Tammy's obituary. The guestbook attached to the obituary had expired, so I renewed it for the year to see if I could discover any information on what had happened. One lady from her knitting circle had left a contact link, and I emailed her in hopes of something. She said that even locally, there was no posting of a funeral home, memorial, nothing. No closure.

Tammy's obituary is here, along with the guestbook. It would mean a great deal to me if those of you who knew her would sign it. My hope is her young niece may come across it at some point and know her aunt was loved and a cherished friend, that she meant something to us, her friends.

Since nothing was done in memory of her, I'm collecting money to make an In Memoriam donation to Best Friends in her name. Tammy loved her kitties so much, and I know she'd like to help other cats in need in her name. If you make a donation, please let me know what name you'd like included on the Memorial Wall. And thank you.

It has been eighteen years since I met TamTam on FORKNI, 18 years of happy times and tragedies. From trips we took together, and fic we cowrote, to the death of her parents a year apart and her fight with cancer. Life had been a struggle these last several years, but it seemed things were turning around. Tammy had decided to sell up and move here to Utah to be closer to people who could look out for her and help her get her health back. I'd sent her area info and rental info, not knowing she was already gone. We were going to be little old lady spinsters, living in side by side cabins, with a cute gardener to watch from the porch together. But none of that will ever be. I hope she's at peace now, reunited with her parents, her struggles over.

I will miss you, dearest friend, more than you will ever know. I love you, TamTam. God keep your soul in his embrace.

Me and Tammy, 1997, Syndicon East PWFC Breakfast

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ETA: Please see here for more information on Tammy's final days. Thank you, Deb, for sharing this.
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asher63asher63 on June 3rd, 2014 01:16 am (UTC)
I am very, very sorry.

Have made a small donation in her memory.

May you be comforted.
layla_aaron: SRK_in_peace_memorial (me)luscious_words on June 3rd, 2014 01:54 am (UTC)
***HUGS*** I made a small donation. My pay day is Friday, so if you've not made the collective donation by then, I'll add to it. If you want, you can contact the LJ PTBs and have otterevil made a memorial journal so it's never deleted.
I_llbedammned: Sadnessi_llbedammned on June 3rd, 2014 02:40 am (UTC)
I am very sorry to hear that she passed. To lose someone is always hard, but to do so without any closure is nigh impossible. I hope you can get some peace of mind eventually, death is never easy.
Mischief: KittenBooksem_kellesvig on June 3rd, 2014 03:00 am (UTC)
I remember Tammy well from PWFC Memphis. She was a fun, charming woman and I could tell your friendship was strong. I'm so sorry for your loss, my dear.

cincoflexcincoflex on June 3rd, 2014 11:04 am (UTC)
Oh sweetie, how hard! I didn't know your friend, but I've donated because I DO know how important and special certain friends are, and I hope yours is at peace.

lillielilliew on June 3rd, 2014 02:14 pm (UTC)
I wish I had been more in touch with her especially as Spartanburg isn't that far away from me and I would have gone to visit and would have been proud to have been part of her "family".

Also in her memory, let's keep closer in touch, k? Those of us who met through FK I still consider "family" and I'll always treasure the great times we had back in the day.

If you can find out what happened to her kitties, let me know.
spockside on June 3rd, 2014 09:43 pm (UTC)
My condolences, friend.
I will call her George: Winchester - Hugstrangevisitor7 on June 4th, 2014 11:47 pm (UTC)
fkastriderfkastrider on June 6th, 2014 03:11 am (UTC)
{{{{Hugs while tears are dripping down the right side of my face}}}}

I had been praying for Tammy to get better. My loss, but not the first I have had to deal with the last three months.

We are still supporting a guy I work with as he lost his (not quite) 18-year-old son in March. This last week, one of my wife's former daycare children lost her father the night before she graduated from High School. It has not been an easy Spring.

You will be in our thoughts and prayers ... though it seems difficult to deal with finding out a month after the loss.

Take care, Ith. {{{{More Hugs}}}}